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[Flash] Filmmaker Ava DuVernay Mentoring a New Conversation
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Next week, award-winning filmmaker Ava DuVernay is releasing her new movie Origin, based on the impossibly profound, non-fiction book Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents written by Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist Isabel Wilkerson.
Against everyone’s advice, Ava took a seemingly unadaptable book and wrote the screenplay based on Isabel’s quest to understand the caste systems in India, Germany, and the US and dissect their impact on our connections and relationships. As Ava describes in multiple interviews, caste is the practice of human hierarchy: one person is categorized as better than another based solely on a set of random traits. Why this project? Ava reflected earnestly, “Reading Isabel’s book allowed me to excavate who I am in the world and explore who I could be. What if we all addressed caste in our own lives? A world without caste would set everyone free and make us collectively better.” As part of the movie release, Ava is launching The Seat 16 Program, which has a goal of gifting 10,000 teenagers with a ticket to see the movie plus a one-year pass to access MasterClass, a platform offering lessons from experts in various fields. “Let’s help them change the world!” her website urges. To secure that partnership with MasterClass, Ava agreed to lead a class entitled “Reframe your Thinking,” to share how filmmaking skills can be applied to life goals. Why all of this trouble? Why not just make a movie and sell it to Hollywood? Because Ava didn’t just want to produce a film. She wanted to start a conversation, one steeped in the possibility of a more just world. And that requires engaging many people in that conversation. Similarly, you could launch a mentoring program or a mentoring relationship that starts a new conversation, one that:
It just depends on how passionate you are about sparking that conversation and changing your world. Ava’s easy-to-follow formula: Don’t just hope that things will change. Inspire others to create that change with you! Ava received a 9-minute standing ovation at the Venice Film Festival for Origin. Imagine how long your standing ovation will be! © 2024. Ann Tardy and MentorLead. www.mentorlead.com. All Rights Reserved. ps. Have you registered yet for our 2024-Q1 complimentary webinar? |
[Flash] When John Candy Mentored Conan O’Brien (Ready to Reword your NY Resolutions?)
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Late-night talk show host Conan O’Brien attended Harvard University in the early 80s and considered law school. But he was also drawn to comedy.
While at Harvard, Conan served as President of the Harvard Lampoon, the school’s humor magazine. There, he met the comedic genius and Saturday Night Live (SNL) icon, John Candy. When Candy visited the campus at the magazine’s invitation, Conan assisted as his guide for the day. Sharing the experience in a recent interview, Conan reflected, “I don’t see myself as a brave or reckless person. I had worked so hard to get to that college, and I knew my parents would kill me for trying this thing (comedy) that famously flames out for most people.” So Conan mustered his courage, measured his words, and nervously confessed: “Mr. Candy, I’m thinking I might try comedy.” Candy’s head snapped to attention, and in a role not dissimilar to Yoda in the Star Wars saga, he looked straight at Conan and said sternly, “You don’t try comedy. You do it, or you don’t do it.” “That hit me powerfully,” Conan mused 40 years later. This unexpected mentoring galvanized Conan – he ditched his backup plan, skipped the law school entrance exam, and declared, “I’m going to make comedy work!” Conan graduated the following year, moved to LA to write for HBO, SNL, and The Simpsons, hosted three late-night television shows, and became a stand-up comedian. Candy’s mentoring was based on a concept in psychology called “self-signaling,” in which we use our words and actions to “signal” our intentions and commitment to ourselves. “I’m going to try” is a vague signal, a hope, a dream. Vague: I’m thinking about more education. Vague: I’m working on my self-confidence. Vague: I am hoping to become a leader. It’s scary declaring intentions – there is no safety net. Our commitments are impenetrable by excuses. But intentions are always more potent than hopes and dreams. As we plow into 2024, don’t underestimate the power of your words (and your mentee’s words) to self-signal commitment and fuel actions. Why bother “trying” when we can “tackle, toil, and triumph!” © 2024. Ann Tardy and MentorLead. www.mentorlead.com. All Rights Reserved. ps. Have you registered yet for our 2024-Q1 complimentary webinar? |
[Flash] Fan Favorites from 2023
| And here we are again… the well-earned pause in our journey around the sun, a moment to reflect on where we’ve been, what we’ve discovered, and where we’re headed.
As I reflect on the articles that I wrote for you each week in 2023, I’m resharing the 7 that generated the most conversation: The Secret to Finding a Mentor When David Letterman’s Mentoring Moment Spared Jason Bateman’s Career How Starbucks CEO Leveraged Reverse Mentoring to Plunge into His New Job Just Because You Stop Doesn’t Mean You Quit (Ke Huy Quan’s Mentoring) Root for People (Jimmy Fallon’s Mentoring) Success-Stacking: Harness the Power of Post-Achievement Moments Unexpected Mentoring: When Kelly Clarkson Sent Taylor Swift an Idea Thank you for meeting me each week at the intersection of mentoring, leading, and joy! It is a delight to be on this bigger-better-bolder adventure with you! Wishing you a watershed year ahead! © 2023. Ann Tardy and MentorLead. www.mentorlead.com. All Rights Reserved. |
[Flash] Navigating Holiday Well-Wishes with Grace and Good Intent
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I recently rediscovered one of my favorite infographics (created by Dave Lieberman) recommending a refreshing response to various holiday greetings:
When someone wishes you…
You say: “Thank you! Same to you!” The simplicity of this recommendation is actually profound: Meet people where they are, not where you are. Understandably, we expect others to offer an appropriate holiday wish. But that’s not always practical or possible. And sometimes, even those who know us well are distracted, forgetful, or inadvertent – that’s just where they are at that moment. Instead of assuming that others are being rude or dogmatic with their beliefs, seek to understand their intentions – politeness, friendliness, amiability, holiday spirit. If we express outrage or insult, we become rude and self-oriented – making it all about us. Being offended when the offense was not intended is a waste of time and energy. Rather than interpreting someone’s use of specific greetings, let’s just assume good intent behind the holiday well-wishing and move on. Kindness is extending to people the benefit of the doubt. And that includes letting go of our expectations around holiday greetings. Wishing you Happy Everything! © 2023. Ann Tardy and MentorLead. www.mentorlead.com. All Rights Reserved. |
[Flash] Over and Next – Norman Lear’s Mentorship Legacy
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“Over and Next!” Norman Lear’s simple yet profound advice for a life well lived.
Norman Lear passed away last week at 101, leaving a legacy of exploring, creating, and laughing. “The soundtrack of my life has been laughter. I believe it has everything to do with a long life.” Best known for producing popular sitcoms in the 1970s: All in the Family, Sanford and Sons, The Jeffersons, Maude, and Good Times, Norman brought joy to millions through the television screen while audaciously introducing heated political and social themes such as abortion, bigotry, and sexism. Throughout his career, Norman created, wrote, and produced over 100 shows, with six more in the works when he died! When asked about his constant stream of projects, Norman reflected, “I don’t want to wake up in the morning without hope.” With this mindset, Norman refused to retire. He wrote his memoir at age 92 and launched his podcast All of the Above with Norman Lear, at age 95, sharing stories and seeking wisdom from 64 guests over two years. Also known for supporting liberal and progressive causes and politicians, Norman founded People for the American Way, a progressive advocacy organization, in 1981. And yet, at the same time, Norman nurtured a pen pal relationship with President Ronald Regan, a staunch Republican supporting opposing views. Commenting on the ostensible conflict, Norman responded like an earnest mentee of life, “We are in this lifetime together. And maybe it’s possible to appreciate the other guy for the way his mind works, even when he’s not working your way.” How did Norman come to this philosophy? He loved Ralph Waldo Emerson’s quote: “Every man I meet is my superior in some way, and in that, I learn from him.” As Norman approached his centenarian milestone, he was interviewed often, inviting him to reflect and mentor us from his lifetime of exploring and experimenting. Norman offered this advice: “There are two little words we don’t pay enough attention to: Over and Next.” “Over!” is recognizing when an experience is done, letting it go, and refusing to ruminate. And “Next!” is eagerly anticipating and creating the possibility of the future. Norman urged, “When something is over, it is over, and we are on to the next. Between those words, we live in moments – make the most of them.” © 2023. Ann Tardy and MentorLead. www.mentorlead.com. All Rights Reserved. |
[Flash] Mentors Have Made the Story of My Career
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Recently, I participated in a mentoring planning retreat at Wellstar Health System, where teams designed mentoring programs for residency, career pathing, and leadership.
During lunch, Nurse Executive Susan Grant recognized the teams for contributing to the mentoring culture at Wellstar. She stressed its importance, pointing to evidence that connects mentoring to nurse satisfaction and patient safety. Susan also reflected on the significant role mentoring has played in her career path, quoting: “Helen Keller said, ‘My friends have made the story of my life.’ Well, my mentors have made the story of my career.” Susan then shared the stories of the pivotal mentors who guided, encouraged, and championed her career transitions from new nurse to nurse leader. Admittedly, some were intentional mentors, while others were unexpected and only appreciated in hindsight. Susan’s mentor-enriched experience made me reflect on the mentors who have made the story of my career…
And those are merely a few highlights! The list would be indescribably long if I mentioned every colleague or client who contributed to me through their mentoring. Not only have my mentors made my career, but they’ve also made the journey less lonely and more fulfilling while bolstering my confidence and positivity. (As this month’s energetic webinar guest Jenny Apostol described, “Mentors become our fan base!”) This exercise is also inspiring me to acknowledge that my mentees have also made my career. By mentoring others, I have noticeably improved my active listening, guided problem-solving, and altruistic championing… …essential skills for being a great peer, leader, and human being! © 2023. Ann Tardy and MentorLead. www.mentorlead.com. All Rights Reserved. |
[Flash] Win the Week (Mentoring from Stephen Curry)
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NBA basketball point guard Stephen Curry plays for the Golden State Warriors. The winningest team since the Chicago Bulls in the 90s, the Warriors hold the record for the most wins in an NBA season.
When Stephen appeared as a guest on the SmartLess podcast recently, the hosts reflected on the team’s enduring success, posing this thoughtful question: How does a team that has appeared in six finals and won four championships in the last nine years sustain its drive season after season? And like a mentor, Stephen offered a fresh perspective and a valuable strategy: “If we don’t win a championship, it’s a failed season for us because of the standard. But you can’t just show up and say that. There must be a level of detail for how we approach the year. “We have to win the week – that’s what we call it. This gives us a singular focus – we must have a weekly winning record. “That’s how we get the bite-sized motivation for the 9-month journey. We seek little bits of celebratory moments. When we go 2 (wins) to 1 (loss) in a 3-game week, we say, ‘Yeah! We did that!’ “It might sound strange for a team that has won four championships, but it keeps us in the fight.” Win the Week! 1. Tackle weekly mini-goals in pursuit of an audacious, aspirational goal For the Warriors, “Win the Week” does not equate to being undefeated. Instead, the aim each week is to win more than lose. How could we leverage Win the Week?
Setting audacious goals is not the challenge. It’s sticking with them that topples the best of aspirations. On the literal and proverbial court, championships don’t happen unless we first Win the Week. © 2023. Ann Tardy and MentorLead. www.mentorlead.com. All Rights Reserved. |
[Flash] 12 Phrases to Flavor Thanksgiving Banter
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Holiday gatherings offer a valuable opportunity to practice connecting with curiosity and compassion – a coveted skill that makes us better mentors, leaders, and human beings.
Here are 12 phrases to help us connect, not just cope: 2. You’re amazing! 3. How can I help? 4. What’s your perspective? 5. Tell me the story… 6. That’s wonderful, frustrating, or interesting. 7. Have you considered…? What about this idea…? 8. Not yet. 9. Say more… 10. To change the subject… 11. Grateful! 12. “Pleasure.” Regardless of the conversations you create this holiday, guests will appreciate your effort to engage. And who knows… you might feel more connected and compassionate as you savor the celebration. Wishing you a Happy Thanksgiving! © 2023. Ann Tardy and MentorLead. www.mentorlead.com. All Rights Reserved. |