I’ve had several leaders confess to me recently that they need to “listen more.”
And they’re not wrong. Statistics show that because we think faster than others speak, our minds wander, causing us to comprehend and retain only 25% of what we hear. The instigator of this problem? Our propensity to “listen for” instead of “listen with.”
(Being a self-proclaimed Sentence Stepper, Spotlight Stealer, and former attorney, I am often guilty of “listening for.”) But we can powerfully move conversations forward when we…
A few strategies:
Not judgment-veiled questions (“Why would you do that?”). Not declarative questions (“Wow! You’re still talking?”). Involve-the-other-person-in-the-conversation Questions. For example:
I’ve posted my Involve Questions on the wall behind my computer. When I’m on Zoom, it’s easy for me to glance and involve. And then I’m like a participant in an improv class, eager to play with whatever answer my audience tosses to me. We can do better than “listen more.” Let’s listen with voracity and a pinch of amusement! © 2021. Ann Tardy and Mentor Lead. www.mentorlead.com |