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While there are many ways to engage in mentoring, there are two distinct constructs for mentoring programs: self-directed and managed.
In self-directed mentoring programs, people show up with a purpose: a goal. They then use the search & connect tools to find a mentor who can contribute to that goal. The goal ignites the search for a mentor. Conversely, in managed programs, the emphasis is on recruiting and matching participants. And the notion of a “goal” is relegated to an agenda item at the program kickoff. The match prompts the need to find a goal. Unfortunately, this “find some goal!” approach leaves many mentees cringing at the thought of “another thing to do.” They often disregard or dismiss their mentors if they can’t think of one, claiming, “I’m too busy!” Without a goal, mentees often flounder, confused about how or why to engage. But when a mentee is fueled by a compelling purpose, they become determined to find a mentor to obtain the advice they need, thus prioritizing the relationship with unfettered resolution. Whether in a self-directed or managed program, prioritize your goal before a match. Identify your “why” before your “who.” Wait! What if the word “goal” feels daunting or brazen? What if it’s confronting to create a plan for the future when you can’t even see around the corner? Pick a “mentoring focus” instead. What is a mentoring focus? An area of your life where you urgently need a thought partner, a champion, an advocate, a trusted advisor, a guide, or a confidante. For example,
Sure, big, hairy, audacious goals are borne out of aspirations for a better horizon. But we only get there with a multitude of small steps. And those steps require a focus – your why for embracing a mentor. When you have a captivating cause, a mentor becomes the gateway to your future! © 2022. Ann Tardy and MentorLead. www.mentorlead.com. All Rights Reserved. |