Recently, a few of my valiant program leaders have reported a subtle reluctance among employees to enroll as mentors in their programs.
Too busy? Nope. Too afraid. Because they don’t know how to mentor, they’re concerned about failing to help a mentee. Here’s the good news… mentees don’t need nor want fixing, changing, or saving. They simply want a guide, a thought partner, and a champion. Then what is causing this spate of low mentor confidence? Excessive self-expectations, harsh self-judgment, fear, lack of skill, and lack of experience. So, how can anyone increase their mentoring confidence and learn to mentor? By mentoring others. Here is a framework to get started… 3 Things to Ask Yourself
3 Things to Learn about a Mentee
3 Questions to Ask your Mentee to Build Trust
3 Questions to Ask your Mentee in Each Meeting
3 Actions to Avoid
3 Ways to Share Wisdom
3 Ways to be a Thought Partner
3 Ways to Contribute
3 Ways to Check In on Your Relationship
We don’t need to be champions to start mentoring. We just need to start mentoring to be champions. Mentoring is confidence in action. © 2023. Ann Tardy and MentorLead. www.mentorlead.com. All Rights Reserved. |