Research from the University of Chicago reveals that we learn much more from our successes than our failures.
hmmm… I thought everyone was busy “celebrating failures.” Professor Lauren Eskreis-Winkler explains, “We don’t like to focus on our failures – even if there’s value in doing so – because it makes us feel bad about ourselves.” So what? Researchers noted that because failure is ego-threatening, people aren’t celebrating it; they’re avoiding it. They’re neglecting that which could help them grow! Here’s what the researchers concluded:
As a result of the potential judgment, demotivation, undermined self-esteem, and stupor, we stop paying attention to anything that is not successful. And paying attention is a prerequisite to learning! It’s impossible to learn from an experience and glean information about what caused our failure if we refuse to acknowledge and explore it. And society isn’t helping:
After reading this report, I asked a friend to name some of her failures. She couldn’t think of any, even though she had been fired from a job and gotten divorced. But then I asked her, “What about your mistakes? Have any of those?” “Definitely!” she laughed, and then we exchanged stories of our favorite mistakes. Interestingly, in this conversation…
So, what can we do about this? How can we grow despite our contempt for failure?
We don’t need to celebrate or pay homage to failure; we just need to welcome the growth on the other side. © 2022. Ann Tardy and MentorLead. www.mentorlead.com. All Rights Reserved. |